"... when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
-- When Harry met Sally
"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed."
-- Carl Jung
Monday, August 31, 2009
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Saturday, August 29, 2009
The weekend is finally here, and my soul is soaring simply thinking that my Goddess and I will be in each other's presence, uninterrupted, for 60 hours. What will we do? Where will we go? What will her mood be? What moments and experiences will we share?
- Are we going to spend most of our time at home or doing things around the city?
- Will she hurt me sensually? Or will she do it sadistically?
- Will we do things because we have to? Or because we want to?
- Will I be doing domestic service around the home? Or will I be busy in active service to her?
- Will we shop for necessities? Or shop for pleasure?
- Will I be in bondage because she wants to keep me by her side? Or will I be in bondage so she can play with me as her toy?
- Will we drive places for purpose? Or will we go to them for inspiration?
- Will it be rope bondage? Leather bondage? Metal and chains?
- Will we eat healthy food? Or will it be whatever we're in the mood for?
- Will it be the flogger? The crop? The paddle? The cane?
- Will we seek the thriving energy of crowds? Or will we try to avoid people and be just the two of us?
- Will she prefer my reactions from hard spiky metal objects? Or will she prefer heat? Or her own nails?
- Will we be active and on the go the whole time? Or lazy and catch up on some napping?
- Will I have marks? Will they bleed? How long will they last?
- Will we talk about serious things that matter? Or will it be about fun things that make us happy?
- Will she take me with her strap-on this weekend? Will she do it more than once?
- Will we be inspired to write about our adventures? Or are we going to be to busy doing them?
- Will she tease me and build-up the tension and make me wait for release? Or will she demand it until I can't anymore?
Friday, August 28, 2009
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Monday, August 24, 2009
I wanted to share this picture. A beautiful picture. My dymion often thinks of himself as a canvas on which I can create anything I want. In this case, I made some awesome marks. At least, all evidence points to the fact that I must have done it. I don't remember. He, on the other hand, remembers exactly when I did it...afterall, it was his back! But alas, the moment of bloodshed escapes me. I don't remember scratching him, but what I do remember is being BEYOND into him at that moment. It was a moment in time where nothing else in the world existed but him and me...when I couldn't get close enough. Though I could feel him inside me, I needed to be inside him. The best way I could feel that internal connection was to dig my nails into the soft flesh of his back. I needed to feel his warmth, leave my mark, and see his reaction of simultaneous pain and pleaure. It was erotic, instinctual, and the most natural thing in the world. As the "spicy vanilla" sexual scene winded down, I had a visual with which to reminisce. I can only imagine the sting he must have felt for time long after. It makes these intimate moments last well after the actual act is over. It is really an awesome thing. As we grow older I can only imagine the scratches that will lead to scars... each with its own erotic tale it tell.
Sunday, August 23, 2009
A quiet weekend, unfortunately filled with RL stresses and demands on my Goddess. However, that did not keep my Goddess and I from sharing some wonderfully intimate moments.
Seriously... one of my greatest joys is without question bringing my Goddess to climax, whether it comes from passion taking us over, or when she demands sexual servitude. I am also most fortunate in that my Goddess has tremendous sexual drive and needs in that respect, and that she very much enjoys allowing me release, under her control, of course.
My release always come when my Goddess desires it, and how she desires it, and that means that she'll be hurting me. Deep scratches and very sore nipples, among other things, are residual collateral damage from this weekend. But I still now have shudders from flashbacks of shaking and post-climax tremors 10 minutes after my orgasms. I've always had very powerful orgasms, but never before quite on this level.
No less erotically charged for me were the opportunities to provide my Goddess pleasure in a multitude of ways. I just can't get enough of doing that for her. Her reactions and her energy are just extraordinary, and there is simply such a special and important place in a D/s relationship for providing sexual pleasure to one's dominant.
In other areas, I hope I met my Goddess' expectations in terms of domestic servitude, doing regular housework and specially assigned tasks while collared and leashed 34 of the last 36 hours of the weekend.
All in all, another splendid weekend in love with, and in service to, my Goddess.
Friday, August 21, 2009
August 19th, 2009 by Vixen Last modified: August 19th, 2009
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #172? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
Kiss Me If You Can
“I love the buildup, the discovery.”
Back To School
“Back at school a stolen glance across the corridor shows me you haven’t forgotten either.”
On Critics and Criticism
“But is it fair? Is it right?”
Review: Babeland’s Under The Bed Restraints
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Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Big, Beautiful Women
The Ghost of Sex Toys Future (Part Three of Three)
Play with Gigi and Iris
How to Properly Finger a Woman
BDSM & Fetish
And It Rained
A bedtime story
Inspiration, pain, subspace and bliss in the afternoon
The Spanking TOP 5 – Delivery #4
Time for a Shower
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How Much Dick Would A Dick Cock Cock if A Dick Cock Could Suck Cock?
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Jimmyjane Form 6 review
Top Five Tuesday - Judging a Porn By Its Cover
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5 schoolgirls spanked and caned
HNT ~ Dana Lends a Hand. Or Two.
HNT: Strawberry Season - Part 2
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Late In The Game
Erotic Writing & Experiences
Cock LoveConfessional: Her HusbandFriday Night Plans: Faith
A Hot Summer’s Night Dream
Looks So Nasty in Those Khakis
The Tale of the Hot Blond Sex Machine (real story)
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Total submission, domestic and sexual servitude, offering my mind and body as a canvas to my Goddess are all great, but sometimes the best way to serve is simply to offer understanding, emotional support, and love when RL challenges from outside the relationship come storming in...
Monday, August 17, 2009
The situation: BDSM munch, but in a place that still requires discretion. A dozen people present, my Goddess and I are sitting side-by-side, but each engaged in discussion with different groups of people at that particular time.
The moment: I get a text message... I peak discreetly at my phone (don't want to be rude in the middle of the discussion)... It's from my Goddess... It reads "Will u let me tie u up?"
The feeling: I melt... I turn toward her... She feels me turn to face her... She faces me and a gives me the most beautiful mischevious smile...
Of course my Goddess, of course...
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Saturday, August 15, 2009
Friday, August 14, 2009
- my Goddess making it clear to me that I WILL have release by telling me "... you're not going to sleep until you are done"... just wow...
- the look on her face as she controls my pace and reactions by how much she hurts me... teasingly in charge, totally dominant, wickedly controlling, deliciously evil, and unbelievably erotic...
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
(yes, I made it up, Webster has not accepted it, but I AM the Goddess...I'm allowed!)
Dymion is completely Geek Fabulous! I hope he doesn't take offense as I say it often. He really should be flattered. I think Geek Fabulous is just about the most attractive aspect of any man. Dymion is very smart, full of knowledge and... as most Geek Fabulous people are... the keeper of just about an endless supply of useless triva. It took me awhile to figure out just what was so appealing about this, but I think I can finally explain it...
Meticulous may seem like a bad thing, but I was listening to his description of some BDSMers the other day, and I realized the most awesome thing about a person who is Geek Fabulous. His detail-oriented demeanor is due to his accepting, understanding, and curious heart. Thoughts or feelings most people would judge or dismiss, Dymion is anxious to explore and dissect. Wow... I am describing him like a toddler with a Master's degree, but it is truly amazing and admirable. As his words flow through discussions, he slowly shows me the beauty in any situation.
I think that is why our dynamics are so phenomenal. He doesn't perceive D/s as a humiliating experience or a weakness... he explains the power exchange as both individuals giving a gift to one another: The submissive gives the gift of service and care... the dominant gives the gift of appreciation and reward. Both are giving equal amounts of trust and, in our case, love, by presenting themselves in their most natural light.
So I thank Dymion for teaching a very pessimistic dominant to appreciate each day, the diversity of life, and my journey with all its twists and turns. I know life will only get better, and with him by my side I know I won't ever miss out on a single precious moment.
Monday, August 10, 2009
2- Any time my Goddess happens to be in the mood for nipple play/torture.
3- Any time smothering happens, especially when it brings my Goddess to climax, with or without stimulation from me.
4- Any time my Goddess lies on me and I feel her entire body weight (which isn't very much, but I digress), either while I'm in bondage, which makes me feel more vulnerable (e.g.: while in a hogtie), or when she wants to pin me down so that I can't squirm quite as much while she does painful things to me.
5- Any time I collapse because I can't take any more hits from my Goddess paddling me.
6- Any time I hear my Goddess gasp, breath differently, or otherwise react to my reactions.
7- Any time we are watching a movie or television, and my Goddess was in the mood to have me in bondage next to her.
8- Any time my Goddess is inspired to throw in some breath play in what she's doing... just because...
9- When we come home in the evening, I haven't changed quite quickly enough, and my Goddess sternly asks me "why aren't you naked yet...".
10- Bathing my Goddess under candlelight.
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Initiative & service: what else does your domme need? Try to be ahead of the curve in serving her. Don't just think of what she needs now, think of what she WILL need to make her life easier, more enjoyable, and more fulfilling. Submission is even more a state of mind than a list of actions.
Passive symbolism: you can have a reminder of your D/s dynamics at all times if she, or the two of you, decide on a ring, wrist or ankle bracelet, or another piece of jewelry you can wear 24/7. Want to go even further? What about a piercing? Or a tattoo? The mood and energy will wash back over each of you every time you feel it or see it.
Recognition & feedback: never let a good D/s gesture, action, or mood go unrecognized, unappreciated, and unthanked. There's nothing that creates positive reinforcement like appreciation.
Part of creating and maintaining the energy all parties are seeking are the little daily things that imprint and reinforce the D/s dynamics. You don't need 3-hour sessions daily. No top has that kind of energy any more than a rock star could be in concert every single day of the year. But the mood and energy can be remain high if no one ever lets the flame die out, even for a day, even for a few hours, and the bottom/sub/slave, needs to take an active role in that.
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Friday, August 7, 2009
10- When my Goddess places my collar around my neck as I'm kneeling before her, and I feel the glee and satisfaction of her ownership of me as she clicks the lock shut.
9- While I'm on the verge of being overwhelmed by intense pain, my Goddess' voice, totally dominant and teasing, saying "aaaw... what's wrong, baby?"
8- The smile on my Goddess' face as she clips my very long house leash (50') to my collar so that she can pull me back to her whenever she wants, for whatever she wants.
7- When my Goddess has me locked away in our little makeshift dungeon, in bondage in a vulnerable and slightly uncomfortable position, and she reaches over to caress my face, gives me a kiss, and tells me "don't go anywhere... I'll be back", and then she leaves me, and I don't know when she'll be back.
6- When my Goddess has me in a vulnerable or helpless position, she's pushing me to the edge, and then she grabs my hair and snaps by head back, arching my back and getting a deep exhale or whimper out of me. My Goddess reaching for my throat with one hand instead of pulling on my hair under similar predicaments, and slightly restricting my breathing for a few seconds, is a close second.
5- How close my Goddess holds me, and lays on me, and covers me during a night's sleep or a nap in which she has me completely in bondage.
4- While I'm right at the edge of what I can take from my Goddess, she come in close to me to tease me and challenge me and asks "...want me to stop?"
3- My Goddess' eyes reaching deeply into mine while she pulls me close to her by my collar and says "I...want...sexual...service".
2- When my Goddess is so turned by my reactions to her hurting me that she climaxes without any stimulation from my part.
1- Hearing and feeling my Goddess reach climax while taking me with her strap-on, her nails digging into my hips, pulling them in rythm with her thrusts into me... faster... harder...
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
My dymion made mention of a moment of "undescribable hotness" in a previous post when referring to my actions during a brief interlude we had the other night. I was so flattered. So, I felt the need to tell our readers (and dymion) about HIS top 10 moments of undescribable hotness:
#10 ...when he kneels on the floor and lowers his head to receive his collar when we get home from work
#9 ...the little submissive smile when I make a request for him to fetch something from the kitchen or help me find something I've lost (I lose lots of stuff...sometimes on purpose!)
#8 ...the raising of the eyebrows when I know he is thinking something particularly evil
#7 ...that first groan or whimper (they are my favorite) when I first begin to pinch or squeeze or allow him to enjoy some type of discomfort at my hands
#6 ...the fast breathing and anxious demeanor when I come in for a kiss during or after bondage play
#5 ...the times he's said "don't stop" during particularly hot strap-on play.
#4 ...the way he squirms when the pain is almost too much but he can't bring himself to ask me to stop
#3 ...his hands slowly wraps around my waist or touches my face when we begin our good night kiss
#2 ...the low whisper in my ear during intimate moments when I ask him to tell me how he is feeling while he is providing pleasure to his Goddess
#1 ...but most of all...simply his presence in the room after a very long day when I have just a moment to ponder, "What will happen tonight?"
Sunday, August 2, 2009
God... She did it again today...
I was still sore from yesterday when my Goddess pulled me out of our late afternoon nap (we had barely fallen out for a few minutes) with some heavy nipple torture and CBT while she was next to me. Same routine: tortmenting/torturing the left nipple with her fingers and nails... tormenting/torturing the right nipple with her fingers and nails, or biting down on it... down for some CBT... squeezing, scratching, digging in... back to the nipples, individually or together...
In a moment of undescribable hotness, my Goddess grabbed my hair, pulled on it hard snapping my head back as I arched my back off the bed, and as she took me to the edge of what I could endure as I moaned deeply and my breathing was short and fast because of how much she was hurting me, she whispered in my ear "I never, ever tire of hearing you make those noises..."
On another round a few minutes later, she again reached for my hair and pulled hard on it, once more getting me to arch my back, and as she hurt me even more, this time she said "I just absolutely love your reactions... And I love that you'll be making them for me forever..."