"... when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
-- When Harry met Sally

"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed."
-- Carl Jung

Friday, December 31, 2010

Enjoying the end of one year and looking forward to the next one (E)

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I've noticed my Goddess feeling particularly feisty of late.

We've had less time than usual for intense play during the last month because of work and health issues. But I can feel my Goddess so hungry she's about to explode. She's excited that we'll be regaining our privacy soon when we move into a new house. She's just beaming every time she takes a look at me wearing the Eternity Collar.

I feel my Goddess even more dominant than usual on everyday things, reminding me of how things need to be go and how they need to be done. She's found opportunities to hurt me, in a good way of course, almost every day of late. She's been recently demanding more attention, more affection, and more service. She keeps talking about what she's planning on doing to me the next time we have a little quiet time.

What a great way to wrap-up the old year, and to look forward to the new one!

Warmest wishes from both of us for a Happy (and safe) New Year to everyone!

Thursday, December 30, 2010

Eternity Collar (E)

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1. Time without beginning or end; infinite time.
2. The state or quality of being eternal.

A restraining or identifying band of leather, metal, or plastic put around the neck

Definitions adapted from the Free Online Dictionary

Something new arrived in the mail for us today. Something we had talked about for a long time. Something my Goddess ordered me to purchase a little less than two weeks ago.

We received the Eternity Collar that my Goddess chose for me. Stainless steel, black (the "Phantom Line"), 3/8" thick, heavy, absolutely ungiving, and kept in place by an allen screw that can only be removed by the thin allen keys that came with it (my Goddess has already made the allen keys disappear). I will be unable to remove it without asking my Goddess to remove it for me. Something I don't think she's planning on doing any time soon. In fact, she later said something like, "Get used to it... it'll be there for a very long time."

Shortly after we came home, my Goddess unlocked the padlock of the chain that had remained continuously around my neck for the last 13 months and change, apart from a few plane flights and courthouse visits, and replaced it with the Eternity Collar. Upon pulling away from me after placing and closing the Eternity Collar around my neck, and lining up the screw just right to lock it into place, my Goddess broke into the most joyous, satisfied, and dominant smile I have ever seen on her.

The Eternity Collar really is a superb piece. Making its presence felt around my neck by its weight and its rigidity, it perfectly symbolizes my attachment and belonging to my Goddess, her ownership of me, and the strength of the ties that bind us. It certainly makes very tangible the expression "owned and collared".

While we were both very tired this evening, the sight of the Eternity Collar around my neck got my Goddess rather excited, and she told me to make sure I don't make any plans for tomorrow evening... because she most definitely has some.

In the meantime, inspired by what she saw, my Goddess still wanted to assert some measure of dominance, and she locked some leather cuffs on me, and I will undoutedly remain bound until she decides to release me in the morning.

"If one understands eternity as timelessness, and not as an unending timespan, then whoever lives in the present lives for all time." ~ Ludwig Wittgenstein

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Our Solace Returns: why this is good (E)

"Suspension Love", by Ladenadenoire, via Lunar Black.

Following up on my Goddess' post, here are a few of the things that I'm looking forward to once we regain our privacy:

  1. A return to the full compliment of daily rituals.
  2. No more limits on my Goddess' expression of her dominance: more opportunities for impromtu bondage and BDSM and servitude.
  3. My Goddess will be placing the locking leather collar much earlier each evening.
  4. No more worries about noise caused by paddles, canes, or me (which will likely significantly increase the frequency of these activities).
  5. Watching my Goddess' favorite TV shows while she keeps me in bondage; sexual servitude may be required at any time.
  6. Spending more time leashed to my Goddess' side.
  7. More nights sleeping in bondage next to my Goddess.
  8. Playing my Goddess' favorite board games while she keeps me in bondage.
  9. No more worries about prep, noise, or clean-up during strap-on play (which will likely significantly increase the frequency of this activity).
  10. A large closet that can serve as a make-shift mini-dungeon.

The anticipation has been rising for a while now. In both of us.

Friday, December 24, 2010

Our Solace Returns (S)

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Earlier this year, Dymion and I moved to a new town. Since then we have had roommates while seeking out a new place of our own. They are wonderful people, but with roommates comes lack of privacy. Well, I am happy to report we are making a change.
Dymion and I will be moving into a new little cozy cottage in the next couple of weeks. Since signing the lease I have been obsessed with getting back into old rituals. Here is my plan for our first Saturday morning in the new place:

When I wake up I will probably hear my boy tap, tap, tapping away on his laptop in the other room. I know I will look over to his side of the bed and see that he has been obedient and attached his leash to his collar before leaving the bedroom in case I need him. I will give it a little tug and he will immediately come back to wish me a warm, "Good Morning" and see if I need anything. I am awake, so he must tend to me.

First, the coffee. He will go make me fresh cup in our little kitchen and bring it to me in bed. He will set it on the bedside table warning me to be careful not to burn myself (he is always considerate like that). Then, he will sit on the floor at my feet and light our morning cigarettes. He will then hold the ashtray up for me while we chat about the plans for the day.

When we are finished he will take my feet in his warm hands and rub, kiss, and caress. I love the feeling of his tiny nose moving from toe to toe as he makes sure he doesnt miss a single spot. I know he will then look up at me with his beautiful eyes and simply smile that milliond dollar smile. I so love him.

At this point I will not be able to resist I will grab the leash and pull him up on the bed beside me. In the past this has led to various things: snuggling, maybe another short nap, possibly some light play or really hot morning sex. I am not sure which will take place on that very first Saturday, but there are no limits to what we can do. The important thing is that this will be the first of many more Saturdays to come and we are back to our old selves. Let the games begin.

So,there you have it. We are starting a new chapter. A new place to make more wonderful memories together. Just him and me. It may be a small, simple little house, but it will be my castle as Dymion always makes me the princess no matter where we are.

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

The joys of control at a distance (E)

A few weeks back, my Goddess was feeling particularly controlling and possessive. As I dropped her off at work, she requested that I go back home, put on the ankle cuffs, lock them on, and wear them until we were together again at the end of the day.

Shortly after I returned home, I received a text message asking me if I had done what she had asked. I sent her the picture above...

She got such a kick out of the picture! There they were, exactly as she had demanded. The little things that make her (and me) happy...

The tangible feeling of her control, her ownership, and my belonging to her through the sensation of the locked cuffs is incredibly special. I absolutely love it whenever she asks me to wear bondage gear under my clothing. I just can't stop thinking about it, reaching for it, thinking of what happened when she had used it on me last, and anticipating what may come. Knowing that my Goddess is excited thinking about the fact that I am wearing, for her, bondage gear that I can't remove is just so totally hot.

Aaah... the little joys of another day in the life of a loving D/s couple...

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Product review and field test! (E)

The good folks over at theirtoys.com contacted us a few weeks ago to review one of their products. They provided us with the Fetish Fantasy O Ring Gag with Nipple Clamps for free, and asked that we share our impressions and comments.

Well, it doesn't take much convincing for my Goddess and I to try out a new toy, especially if we don't have something like it in our collection. We found the idea of a toy that combined two of our favorite items, an O-Ring gag and nipple clamps, very appealing. So as soon as we got a chance, we took the item out of its box, and gave it a field test.

The O-Ring gag buckles behind the head, and attached to this leather strap, about an inch off each side of the actual O-Ring are two chains, maybe 8-9 inches in length, that each lead to an adjustable, rubber-tipped nipple clamp.

For those not familiar with O-Ring gags, these create a unique sense of vulnerability, and are somewhat in a class of their own as gags. Not particularly useful for silencing, they do however cause some discomfort by their shape and positioning (which is a good thing in this context), and they leave the submissive's mouth open for a variety of little torments. In addition, there is a bit of a humiliating element as drooling is particularly difficult to avoid with this kind of gag.

To the gag is added a pair of nipple clamps, on chains that are on the short side for me, I would like to add. During our little sceme, my Goddess had fun pulling my hair, moving my head toward the back, thereby tugging on the nipple clamps.

While we haven't gotten to play with this angle, the shortness of the chains would inevitably keep the head and eyes of the submissive in a humble downward looking position. Looking up, from a kneeling position, would create the same NT as the hair-pulling did.

My Goddess and I are pretty demanding in terms of the quality of our play toys, especially our leather ones, so we found the leather buckling strap attached to the O-Ring a bit on the thin/light side. On the other hand, it does the job just fine. It buckles tight, it holds the O-Ring very steady, and it leaves a nice mark on the outside of the mouth which is a trademark sign left by the use of any decent gag. But if we'd have one suggestion for design improvement, it would be to use a thicker strap.

The adjustable nipple clamps are good for low and medium intensity nipple torture. The adjustment screws can greatly limit the intensity of the clamps, making these good for beginners. With the screws loosened to the point they don't offset the tension at all, the clamps are tight but certainly not the "hurtiest" out there. Perhaps similar to clover clamps, and nowhere as intense as alligator clips.

It'll be one of those toys that's pulled out when there is a mood for a little extra sadism, or when a little more of a predicament is called for. A quirky, unique, inexpensive, and fun combo toy that we definitely enjoyed.

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