"... when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
-- When Harry met Sally

"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed."
-- Carl Jung

Friday, September 25, 2009

My Loving Submissive: He takes care of me (S)


My pet has written many beautiful things about me in recent entries and our readers’ comments have been very gracious and complimentary as well. I felt compelled to interject some modesty into these ongoing conversations.

Lately, I haven’t felt like the best Domme for my prince and pet, dymion. I took him on a long vacation that didn’t give us a lot of opportunities to play. Upon returning to our home, I came down with an illness that has made me a little less active and awfully needy. He deserves so much more attention than he has gotten from me the last couple of weeks.

But, these times do allow for a greater appreciation of our overall dynamics. I am so thankful to have my pet right by my side through all my bad days as well as my good. I am flattered that he still finds inspiration in our activities when they have been very few and far between lately.

I realize that I am very lucky to have someone in my life that finds the sexiness in being forced to watch Dancing with the Stars with me. By the way, I must share that there were a few moments where I fell asleep and he had to later brief me on the parts that I missed proving he truly was paying attention because he knew it was important to me.

I felt safe when, during my illness, he tucked me into bed, brought me things I wanted in the middle of the night, got me coffee in the wee small hours of the morning when I couldn’t sleep anymore, and the list goes on and on. He is truly on call for me no matter what.

So down time can be good for a D/s relationship. You discover you are truly happy just being physically together, glancing at one another out of the corner of your eye, and holding hands as you drift off to sleep. This is when you realize how real and genuine the relationship truly is. We may not be rock stars in a 3-hour scene every night, but little events…little gestures…little thoughts and appreciations…all these things keep healthy relationships such as ours charged and ready go.

He is there because I am his Goddess and he is my pet. He is there because we are in love and know that at any moment just around the corner a new adventure could begin. It is an awesome way to live your life. I am not that type of Domme that feels that my sub should kiss my feet because I allow him in my life (though it is pretty hot when he does). I am the type of Domme that recognizes that same fortune in finding him and appreciate every bit of submission he offers and every bit of love he expresses. What we have is real, genuinely hot, and deeper than any relationship I have ever experienced in my life. My fantasies truly only consist of him. I dream of no one else. He will always be mine. I can’t be without him and luckily I suspect he feels exactly the same way.

Anyway, I wanted to take just a moment to say how much I appreciate my dymion and all he does for me, but I also wanted to send much warm gratitude for all those who read and comment on our blog. It is a great feeling to share with others and also to read your thoughts and feelings. We are an elite group of people who have discovered a magical lifestyle and I think we should all feel fortunate to be on this journey with our partners.


  1. Sometimes it isn't about the D/s, BDSM, FLR, etc. - its all about the little things that your partner does for you that shows you that he cares - even during "down" times.

    I think for those of us in this lifestyle, the practice of D/s intensifies our love for each other. It is, as you have written, truly magical.

    I consider myself to be very lucky to be in the relationship that I am in.

  2. 3 hr scenes? No such thing over here. I am happily surviving on the subtle pleased smile crossing her face. Tonight I made cookies. She liked them. I am going to bed happy.

    Hope you are well soon.

  3. I try to read your blog every day (except when RL gets in the way)...I feel such a closeness to you because we seem to have many of the same opinions and feelings and even way of being with our bois...my boi, my pet, my knight is always there to take care of me when I need him. He takes such joy in making sure the little things are done and matter...a soft kiss goodnight, a cold drink by the bed, his arms around me as I fall asleep holding his leash.

    We are truly fortunate to have found such loyal and loving men who want nothing more than to submit to their goddesses, their queens, their mistresses and provide them pleasure.

    I hope that you feel better soon. And again, I wish you all the best in your journey together...I know that i enjoy every day, every twist and turn, and every chance that I get to use my wonderful, loving, leather clad knight!

  4. This was an extremely beautiful, very sweet and deeply moving post! It really warms my heart to hear a Mistress speak so glowingly about her sub and share her deep and sincere appreciation for his adoration, devotion and service. Many of your words reminded me of my relationship with my Queen. This especially stood out:

    "We may not be rock stars in a 3-hour scene every night, but little events…little gestures…little thoughts and appreciations…all these things keep healthy relationships such as ours charged and ready go."

    Sometimes it's the little things that mean the most! ;-)