"... when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
-- When Harry met Sally

"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed."
-- Carl Jung

Thursday, September 24, 2009

The collar - redux (E)

Artwork courtesy of
Flat Earth Social Club

Being a proudly collared submissive...

Being kept locked in my leather collar every moment that my Goddess and I are alone, away from the eyes of others... unless with others that share similar interest in D/s and BDSM activities...

What does the collar represent? What does it mean?

In simple terms, it is a reflection of the flow of the D/s nature of our relationship. And obviously, the fact that we engage in a relationship that is power-oriented. Power-oriented in the context of domination and submission. Not only sexual D/s, but relational D/s.

I think that it reflects a deep sense of trust and commitment between my Goddess and I. Trust to give myself to her, mind, body, and soul. Commitment from me to support, serve, please, fulfill, explore, and surrender to my Goddess. Commitment from her to support, take care of, push limits, fulfill, discover, and take the lead.

It reflects a tangible sense of my belonging to her, and my Goddess' ownership of me, and the emotional comfort we find in each other through such dynamics.

It reflects a commitment to the expression of an alternative sexuality. Not better, not worse, than whatever is the norm, whatever may be called the norm. Just transcending traditional sexuality into something that permeates every aspect and every moment of our lives together.

It reflects an open expression of kink in both of us, an acceptation of our nature, our desires, our fantasies, our needs, and our selves.

Finally, it reflects my intense desire to do all that I can for my Goddess, that I always want to be in her presence, that I want to belong in her life and belong to her. And I hope it also reflects her wish and desire always keep me that close in her life, and never to let me go.

And besides all that, it's just fucking hot for both of us when my Goddess grabs, tugs, or pulls on my collar or leash to bring me closer to her, or because she wants something...


  1. I like the last paragraph - it is so much how you both feel.

    You also point out that D/s is sexual AND relational - something that I have begun to realize in my situation

  2. Hi:

    A collar sounds like a wonderful way to reinforce your D/s relationship and I am happy you and your Goddess can enjoy it together! :-)

    Unfortunately my Queen and I don't practice the collar ritual. Having our teenage son at home makes such overt displays of ownership problematic (though I have to believe that by now our son has at least some idea of what's going on between us!)

    I would very much like to explore wearing Her Majesty's collar and perhaps someday we will try it. I love the erotic symbolism of it, the element of ritual and the feeling of belonging to her that it no doubt reinforces.

  3. I gravitated to being collared w/o knowing about it really. Back in the stealth submission days, it was a way I could play at being her slave when it wasn't in the open. Just in my mind. Now that it is understood what it represents, I too love her tugs to remind me of my place. I never take mine off, but it is just a tight fitting necklace and acceptable in public as such.