"... when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
-- When Harry met Sally

"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed."
-- Carl Jung

Monday, February 15, 2010

Being rewarded (E)

Artwork courtesy of Flat Earth Social Club

Getting her coffee in the morning, getting her drinks throughout the day, and making sure she has a glass of water when she goes to sleep... Making sure she's comfortable sitting, sleeping, or going outside in inclement weather... Washing her clothes... Preparing her meals... Running errands for her... Cleaning up behind her... Reminding her of favorite TV shows coming on... Pulling the covers neatly over her as I tuck her into bed in the evening...

Little things that make my Goddess' life easier. As it should be, since she is the focus of my day, everyday, and the center of my universe.

I don't ask for a lot. In fact, I try not to ask for anything. But of course, things don't work that way, and in different ways, my Goddess does as much for me as I do for her. The dynamics work because what we do for each other is equivalent, not identical.

Sometimes, my Goddess feels that she doesn't give me quite enough attention. I tell her not to worry, but she does. And that leads to special moments where she acknowledges my dedication to her. While not necessary, those moments of recognition are very meaningful to me. In addition, they can be very exciting, especially when my Goddess comes in close to me and whispers in my ear "you will be rewarded for this".

And then the D/s tension is always brought up an extra notch when I reply that I don't do what I do for reward, that I'm just happy to have the opportunity to do it, and my Goddess retorts that I WILL be rewarded, whether I want it or not. At that point, my mind just starts racing, I feel a little anticipation working itself into the pit of my stomach, subspace slowly starts washing over me, and my imagination starts moving in thousands of different directions, all at the same time...


  1. Nicely stated! A great D/s relationship isn't exactly "fair". That would defeat the whole premise. But there is an incredible synergy to it and everyone gets what they need in the end even though those needs are very different.

    Great photo too! Awesome strap-on! :-p

  2. Thanks, HMP. I don't think "fair" is as relevant in a D/s relationship as "fulfilling". But you are absolutely right, it's about the synergy in play from different needs and different actions.

    I loved that picture... And I thought it would be perfect to represent the many aspects of what could constitute "reward".

    Thanks for dropping by.


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    Thanks for dropping by.