"... when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
-- When Harry met Sally

"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed."
-- Carl Jung

Thursday, April 15, 2010

Random thoughts... Beyond D/s... (E)

Artwork courtesy of Arai Hime, through http://deviantart.net/

She likes me to be around when she's in the mood to hurt me, but it's even more important for me to be around when she needs a hug.

Sexual servitude is important, moral support is essential.

Belonging to her to intoxicating, being there for her is empowering.

Submitting to her is exciting, serving her is fulfilling.

Her dominance over me is the expression of her sexuality and her self, her attention to me every moment of the day is the expression of her love for me.

Hurting for pleasure and the pleasure of hurting, control and surrender, ownership and belonging, authority and worship, dominance and submission...

Parts that add up to a greater sum... necessary but not quite sufficient... who we are on our way to what we can become... everyday dynamics that power two lives... a complex lifestyle that reveals a simple love...


  1. dymion........

    i am not sure if you keep up with my blog.. but i thought i would tell you.... i am no longer collared.

    so i come here and read.. and will admit am a little bit jealous you have found such love.. such devotion (in each other) may it continue for always.. and in all ways.


  2. Indeed, I do keep up, morningstar, indeed I do.

    I was very much saddened by the news. Between the pace and chaos of my real-life, the great support you've had from your friends, and the quick "piecing together" you are doing, I wasn't sure I had much to say that was constructive yet.

    I think there were some great elements to your relationship, and there were other elements that made observers go "well, that's not for me". And yet, none of us can assume that we know what's best for someone else. The essential is that you had a chance, at times, to celebrate life on your terms and in the moment. Sadly, sometimes it comes an end, and we must grieve what we no longer have, but also celebrate what we did.

    Part of the recovery process is a necessary rationalization of what went on, and I'm encouraged to see that you are well on your way on your "healing journey". We'll get a chance to talk soon.

    Thank you for your compliments. But don't be jealous. In part, some of what I've brought into this relationship has been inspired by you. Your honesty, your true-heartedness, and your own devotion to those you have given an important place in your life to, at a moment in time, was a model for me of how it's meant to be

    Thank you for your good wishes. We are striving to reach them.