Isn't my Goddess just the most awesomest?
I loved her entry. Her apology was not necessary, and frankly, quite unexpected. Maybe that's the "love unconditionally" part in me. But it's absolutely wonderful to know that the one you love so much thinks the world of you.
Scenarios that don't allow for win-win outcomes are, of course, the great challenge of communications among partners. Sometimes things have to said, emotions have to be revealed, and thoughts have to be shared. One partner can't remain silent and keep everything to themselves without eventually exploding.
On the other side, those words have to be heard, those feelings must be understood and validated. It's not always easy to do so. The instinctual reflex is often defensiveness or disregard.
The win-win outcome may not be in cards in the short-term. One side will feel better by the catharsis of sharing, but may feel the burden of stress or the hurt of the other. And the other side may feel stress, hurt, self-doubt, anger, and a whole slew of other feelings and emotions. The negative by-products of the sharing are not intentional, of course. However, it's not easy, nor really desirable, to sit back analytically and take things in stride. Good or bad, right or wrong, we just feel the way we do.
The sharing must happen, though. It must happen because if it doesn't clear obstacles, at least it delineates or points out where the rocky protuberances lie under the surface of the water. And to proceed forward safely, it would be foolish to leave those dangers uncharted or uncovered.
Emotional landscape, both under the surface and above, is something that is years in the making. And the result of dozens, if not hundreds, of human interactions. In order to have not only a safe journey but a wonderful one, it's necessary to be aware of that emotional landscape and navigate it correctly. It won't disappear... for either one of us. And we'll keep building more, and chart more of it, as we go along.
But an obstacle is easier to avoid when it is spotted earlier, and a danger more easily prevented than fixed. Open lines of communications are great for that. They help you deal with things before they get broken or scarred. And that's the long-term benefit of putting everything out on the table, even if some of moments of tension are impossible to avoid.
PS: And for my Goddess... there is no one else in the world I would rather have keep the key to my collar... and my heart...