Sleeping in bondage: a technical guide (E)

Artwork courtesy of Lunar Black.

One of our favorite bloggers, Ferns, dropped by to leave a comment related to sleeping in bondage on our last post. First off, if you've never read her blog, run, don't walk, to Dommes Chronicles. Her writing translates a passion, a sense of urgency, and a feeling of hunger that is simply exceptional. One of the D/s best blogs out there.

She commented on the difficulties and the challenges of sleeping with a submissive in bondage. Despite the advantages and the D/s eroticism of it, it doesn't quite work for her. It wasn't the first time that someone had issues with the actual logistics of sleeping next to someone in bondage, so I thought I would share the technicalities of our two favorite positions when my Goddess decides that I will spend the night in bondage.

I have the advantage of being a fair bit taller than my Goddess, so in the first position, we've found this spooning position where she's inside me, I have my bottom arm under her neck and around her upper chest, and she pulls my top arm under her breast. She snuggles against me inside of my bound wrists. It helps to have a clip of at least 3", providing with the D-rings of the cuffs about 5" or so of spare room between the wrist cuffs. A clip in the 4.5" range, or even better, the use of a chain of a similar length, may allow for a even more comfortable position.

My top hand reaches almost around her lower breast, the hand from the lower arm reaches up to fit against her higher biceps, and the clip/link/chain normally crosses back across and in-between her breasts. My ankles are bound/clipped together, but unattached to anything, and this allows them to help with the spooning

Because of our difference in size/height, I can have my arms at that height on her torso, and still have her backside fit in perfectly into my hips. Most of the time, I can go all night like this, but depending on her head position, my bottom arm may go numb after a few hours, and we may have to change position.

I can see definitely see a problem with partners that are closer in height in this position, though.

In the second position, my Goddess will tie my hands to the headboard of the bed (individually, or bind my wrists together, and then tie them to the headboard), and tie my ankles (bound together, or not, or with a spreader bar) to the foot of the bed. Then she will lay down 3/4 on me, with her head on my chest, her top arm across my chest, and her top thigh coming across my hips. I can usually go the whole night in this position, unless I have a desperate urge to pee after a few hours, or if the arm position is a little too strict. Of course, this also gives her the opportunity, as she is often in the mood in the middle of the night, to bite one nipple and torture the other one with her nails.

These are the two positions that we have been quite successful with for overnight bondage. Totally hot, and totally subspace inducing for me.

Depending on body sizes, shapes, weight, and flexibility, mileage may vary...