"... when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
-- When Harry met Sally

"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed."
-- Carl Jung

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Owning the "s" in D/s: a pictorial essay (E)

Images courtesy of Dark Angel Dreams via Dishevelled Domina

During moments of reflections this week, I realized once more how important it was for me to be proactive in, and committed to, my submission to my Goddess if I was really to give her the opportunity to express and exercise her dominance over me. No matter how well a D/s relationship is going, no matter how strong the D/s dynamics are, sometimes life gets in the way. And it's easy to drift into a bit of indifference, or worse, to fall into the trap of wondering what our partners are doing wrong, and to forget about the part we own in the relationship. So I decided that it was as good a time as any to re-own more fully the "s" in our D/s relationship.

Image courtesy of Slave in Training via Girls Rule, Sub Drools

In my mind, that means a few things. To be more openly enthusiastic with my submission. To be more communicative with my needs. To be more expressive with my submission, my love, and my affection toward her. To let go of the outside world when we do get time together. Not only does it make no sense that my Goddess would react positively while I am pre-occupied intellectually and emotionally with other things, I know by experience that her level of enjoyment and fulfillment in our relationship and our activities is directly proportional to my reactions, my engagement, my enthusiasm, and the depth of my submission.

Image courtesy of Alternative Female Domination via GeekDomme

I know how my Goddess reacts to my offering of my submission. She loves to take control, to take advantage, and to seize any opportunity to dominate me in whatever manner she is in the mood for.

Image courtesy of Cruella via GeekDomme

Of course, all this is easier said than done. Being aware of these things is essential to success, but awareness is not sufficient. Only when thought is a precursor to action is success possible. If I do everything I can to set the mood, and fuel her hunger for dominance, she will be more than happy to take everything I have to offer. And then some. So it is up to me to step things up.

Image courtesy of Minha Mente Impura via GeekDomme

Before anybody starts worrying about us, don't. We are doing quite well. Busy but well. Our daily rituals keep the D/s dynamics flowing freely and easily, even during those times we wish we had the time and the energy to increase/elevate the frequency and intensity of our activities. After all, we are who and what we are.

Image courtesy of Slaves of the Goddess

Finally, lest it would seem that I have selfish motives here, it should be made clear that this is not all about me. This is about my contribution to my Goddess' happiness, her fulfillment, and the quality and intensity of our lives in our chosen lifestyle.

Image courtesy of Fine Erotica


  1. Thanks for this post.
    While some of the pictures will probably appeal more to the more hard-core femdom community than they do to me, your text is very valuable for any kind of D/s relationship.
    Take care

  2. Dear Tamara,

    I'm happy you found value in the content of the post. Thanks for sharing.

    Choosing symbolic and appropriate pictures for each post is always a challenge. In fact, I usually spend as much time choosing images that I believe feel right for the content and the mood as I do writing the post. I'm sorry these didn't work for you. But thank you for the feedback.

    As always, we appreciate you dropping by and taking time to comment.

    All the best to you and René.


  3. D,

    Your essay gets an "A" in my grade book. Holding ourselves accountable to our commitment to submit can be a challenge as life always gets in the way. It may appear selfish to the uninformed, but it is, and always will be, about our Dommes.


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  5. Rich,

    Thank you for the kind words. I'm glad you can relate, and that you have a similar take on it.

    Thanks for taking the time to drop by and comment!

    All the best!


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  7. I would love to become submissive to a woman. Some of my submission I can reaily give; other parts must be taken from me, using bondage, pain, and sexual control. My training could at times be brief and harsh, at others very prolonged and perhaps equally harsh, or simply teasing and frustrating. Ar some point I would be forced to accept being branded, on the ass, inner thighs or on the balls,cock or all.