"... when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
-- When Harry met Sally

"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed."
-- Carl Jung

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Bring Back the Romance (and the cuffs!) (S)

We have succumbed to our work life lately. More time with laptops, phone calls to make, and just in general we have been preoccupid with vanilla life. At first, it was depressing me. But now, I see it as an opportunity for growth.

I had a particular wake up call last week that has really made me think. I realized I needed to stop worrying about my lack of activity as it pertains to me and really focus on what that was doing to him. My conclusion -- This down time is going to give me a chance to make a fresh start in our deliciously romantic BDMS lifestyle.

Dymion has been so patient though I know his desire and attraction for me have not waivered. He has waited for his Goddess to workout her stress and health issues without complaint. Damn, he is the most wonderful man. I miss the smile he gets when he know something sinister is not far off on the horizon. I love the look of vacantness when he finds his subspace. I love that adoringingly gentle look in his eyes when a scene ends and it is just the two of us holding one another quietly. I need these things back...for both of us. It is who we are and how we connect. I am putting all my efforts in bringing us back to the days of pure delight and intrigue. I am quite confident we will get there.

I would be interested to hear if any of our readers have ever gone through these phases. I know it has nothing to do with losing interest, life just gets in the way. So, how did you bounce back? I know we are all different, but I have noticed that many of our readers are like us...couples who love each other madly and find an intimacy in BDSM/power exchange that cannot be matched by any other rituals. So talk to me...help me work through this and help me get back to the days where my dymion was paralyzingly obsessed with his Goddess.

One final point, Dymion and I have not once doubted we belong together through the down times. I just love him more than ever and I want to make our other connection even stronger.


  1. I gather that work/health issues have forced you to compromise your BDSM for awhile, and I'd imagine that Dymion has been waiting expectantly and patiently for a signal from you that the game is on once again. As the Dom, it's up to you to provide that signal, and I've no doubt that he's more than ready for it.

    I don't think you have to do anything too dramatic. Simply holding up a pair of handcuffs and giving him a wicked little smile will do wonders, I'm sure. If you want to go to levels that you didn't reach before, a quiet whisper in his ear as you put the cuffs and collar on will do wonders. Something like "I'm back, my pet...and I'm going to teach you some new tricks" will give him a shot of adrenaline, and the presence of a few new toys couldn't hurt either. It really doesn't take much to get a willing sub all excited, and the fact that you're into it again, and have given thought to new adventures will surely have him on the edge immediately.

    Good luck, and I have no doubt that your vivid imagination can come up with many treats for you and your Dymion.

  2. Hi I'm from leather collar About the BDSM does it gives the satisfying felling you need.?

  3. Lady Grey, I sincerely apologize for my late response. I so appreciate your comments. Unfortunately, RL has again gotten in our way. However, things are looking up and your suggestions are right up my alley. I hope to have news to report in the coming weeks that we are back in the swing. In the meantime, dymion has been an angel -- patient, supportive, and very much dedicated to those rituals we do have in place. Couldnt ask for a better boy.

  4. Subshop, thank you for visiting. Yes, this is a wonderful bond that dymion and I share.